CATHastrophic Mediocrity

As usual, I’m in my writing and surfing mood this night. My hubby just snored his way out of our conversation over Skype, so I might just as well share to you a thing I’ve read while surfing the Net. Link here. I’m gonna keep this short and simple to save you your time. Here goes.

I’ve been with my guy for more than a year already. And he was the longest one I’ve been into since I first learned dating and stuff. I don’t really know what made us stick, but this article did gave me an idea why. I am just so grateful that neither of us had gone overboard with our imperfections. Some of you may relate to this.

A couple may break up because of the following habits:

1. Having an affair with his ‘potential’ - We girls and guys are so dreamy in finding our perfect match. We all get into a relationship because we love the person as he is. The scheme of having a Personality Makeover to make him/her match your ideal dream partner will only lower his/her self-esteem, simply because you’re telling him/her that they’re not good for you.
2. Major mood swings - Being a girl is an acceptable alibi when one has a mood swing. (Count my hubby in. He frequently has one.) But why don’t you try to stop and think things over? It may have a very big effect when one or both of you take out stress on your relationship when it really doesn’t have anything to do with it.
3. Gossip - It’s pretty normal to share with friends what you’ve gone through with your guy/girl. But having the first intuition of texting your barkada or calling your mommy to share your problem without even consulting your partner is explicitly a big No No. He/She may even feel he/she had been judged by someone else. Your problem is private thing to keep. As much as possible, work it out together. And please, forget the word ‘blame’.
4. Melodrama - We girls are so melodramatic. Admit it. Unfortunately, the guys, inately, are lazy trying to keep up with it. It’s really tiring to work hard pleasing and calming someone down.
5. Mom-ing him - Your guy is not a kid anymore. That means he doesn’t need someone who’ll hover above his head, tryin’ to tell him what to do and how to do it. You’ll give them an idea that you’re being a control-freak over him. 
6. Too much together time - Men, they say, are attracted to secure and independent women. Being too clingy with your guy gives him an idea that you can’t survive without his constant pampering. Men need more space than we do. And there are things he would want to do alone wihout you in the scene. In this way, you will also have time for your self, not only letting him miss you but also be the independent woman you were when you first met.
7. Jealousy - A little bit of jealousy is alright in a relationship, but getting overboard is like putting a red flag over your head for another war. That means checking on him every now and then, questioning his whereabouts and etcetera. Not only are you telling him that he can’t be trusted, but you’re also making him believe he is being controlled and manipulated.
8. Getting too comfortable - After spending a long time with your guy may make you very comfortable with him. Although the idea that he accepts you for whoever you are is a good thing, we should always remember that a good romance will always do the magic of keeping love alive. Every man would want to feel important and one way is putting up an effort to please or impress him. Not only are you feeding his ego but you’re also boosting your own confidence that the relationship will go a long way.